V-Day Reality Check: Are You In a Healthy Relationship??

Before we get all of our corazones in one basket for Valentine's Day ...

We are inspiring a quick emotional time-out. We tend to be a passionate bunch but now is a good time to evaluate if you and your amor are really on the right track with our quick and painless reality check. Need a check list? Bueno, we think two of J.Lo's movies say it all. Have you had just about "Enough" of each other?

Or are you about to call up your amiga to be "The Wedding Planner"?

We partnered up with Urban Strategies, a non-profit group that works with Latinos across the nation to promote healthy relaciones. We got the full-scoop on the perfect ingredients for a healthy and happy relationship. Find out where you stand after the jump!

Tip#1: Be yourself.
Nobody’s perfect, but there’s no need to change your entire personality to meet someone else's expectations. Tap into your own vibe. Explore the things you enjoy doing for you. Do you like watching novelas and sleeping in on Saturdays? Good, own it! It’s much easier to figure out what kind of person you want to date, when you know what you’re looking for and who you are.

Tip#2: Pay attention.
Yes, the first thing you notice about someone is their appearance and whether or not they make your heart flutter, but like your mami always says – it’s what’s on the inside that counts. So, pay attention to values. Do you both have similar beliefs? Similar priorities? If you like to go to church and he is an atheist that might be a red flag. If your values are out of sync, odds are your relationship might be too.

Tip#3: Wait.
Don’t get desperate to be in a relationship. You have time – wait it out. Jumping into a relationship just cause the person gave you attention without knowing who the person really is can lead to BIG problemas. And trying to change someone, “fix” them, or give them a “make-over” to meet your needs never works. It only leads to a doomed relationship.

Tip#4: Talk it out.
Do you have open lines of communication? All couples will disagree at some point. The difference between a happy couple and an unhappy one is HOW you disagree. If you’re having differences in your relationship, talk it out. Don’t avoid them. Don’t remain quiet. Deal with it. You don’t need to make a federal case out of every difference, but if something is bothering you then just be straight-up.

Tip#5: Expect respect.
Another fave mami dicho: "People will only treat you the way you let them." Expect respect. If someone talks trashy to you, they will most likely treat you trashy. Don’t make excuses for someone who pressures you or bullies you into doing something you don’t want to do, instead confront it. Set your boundaries when it comes to language, behaviors, drugs, alcohol and sex. Be willing to walk away from a relationship that violates your self-respect.

For more info on building a healthy relationship check out futuronow.org and familybridgeschicago.org. Don't forget to watch our Valentine's Day round-up: "Top Tr3ce Remedios Pa'l Amor with Jenni Rivera" @ 2:00 PM EST, "Single on Valentine's Day Special" @ 5:00 PM EST, and "Top Tr3ce Amor with David Archuleta" @ 5:30 PM EST on Feb. 14th!

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